After leaving high-control religion, connection can feel terrifying. But belonging isn’t gone for good—it’s waiting beyond faith and fear.

Feeling like a supporting character in your own life after years of religious control is common — and healable. In this post I share what it looks like to center yourself as the main character: how to recognize faith-based messages that minimized you, small practical steps toward reclaiming your story, and compassionate guidance for survivors of spiritual abuse and purity culture.