When you grow up in high-control religion, even small mistakes can feel like proof that you’re bad or broken. This post explores how religious trauma warps your relationship with being human — and what it looks like to relearn the simple “oops.”

Feeling like a supporting character in your own life after years of religious control is common — and healable. In this post I share what it looks like to center yourself as the main character: how to recognize faith-based messages that minimized you, small practical steps toward reclaiming your story, and compassionate guidance for survivors of spiritual abuse and purity culture.

Religious trauma happens when fear, shame, or control within a faith community cause lasting harm. Learn the signs and how healing is possible.

Loneliness is one of the most painful parts of religious trauma. This post explores why faith deconstruction can feel so isolating — and what survivors need to know about healing.

James Dobson shaped evangelical culture, and his harmful teachings on sex, purity, and gender left many survivors with shame and trauma. Here’s how to understand that legacy and begin healing.

Leaving a high-control religion can leave you questioning who you are. This post explores how to reclaim your identity, set boundaries, nurture self-compassion, and rebuild trust—offering a roadmap for healing after religious trauma."

Discover the secret thoughts many religious trauma survivors have but rarely voice. Validation, understanding, and healing start here.

What happens when being loved by your church means hiding who you are? This post explores the connection between queer identity, spiritual shame, and mental health.

If you were taught the devil could be lurking in everything—from music to your own thoughts—you’re not alone. This blog explores how high-control religion creates spiritual paranoia, and how survivors of religious trauma can begin to unlearn that fear.

Growing up in high-control religion, I was taught that emotions like anger and sadness were sinful. This post explores how those beliefs impact survivors—and how healing can begin.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your experience “counts” as religious trauma, or you’ve felt like no one would understand, this post is for you.

If seeking “God’s will” meant losing touch with what you want, you’re not alone. A religious trauma therapist explores the cost of obedience and how to reclaim your voice.

You were promised “freedom in Christ,” but only if you obeyed without question. In this post, I explore the spiritual catch-22 of high-control religion — and what real freedom actually feels like.

Faith deconstruction isn’t rebellion — it’s a valid response to spiritual harm or misalignment. Here’s what it is, why it happens, and how to cope.

What an adolescent’s coming out taught me about queerness, healing religious trauma, and the opposing feelings of joy and grief that can surface during Pride Month.

Even after deconstructing harmful theology, many survivors still feel inherently “bad.” This post explores how the doctrine of original sin wires in shame—and how to begin healing from it.

High control religion often teaches that suffering is either your fault—or somehow makes you more holy. In this post, I share how those beliefs shaped my own story and how they show up in therapy with religious trauma survivors. If pain has ever felt like something you deserved, you're not alone—and you're not beyond healing.